Change When You Don’t Want To

HaveChange When You Don't Want To | Life Healthfully Lived you ever faced a situation where you KNOW that you have to change something in order to get where you want to be, but you just can’t muster up the willpower to make the change?

Sure you do.

I would say that most of the time when you are faced with a problem or something that you need to overcome, you have a fairly good idea what needs to be done to address those issues.  But there is a factor of fear.  Fear of the unknown, fear of being uncomfortable, fear of a different routine, fear of a million different things.Change When You Don't Want To | Life Healthfully Lived

Or maybe there is a factor of laziness.  Knowing that the change you need to make takes a lot of work and you just don’t want to put in the hours or manpower.

Perhaps there is a factor of the impossible.  There is no way you can make the change because to you it is utterly impossible.  You can’t see a way around it, so why even try?Change When You Don't Want To | Life Healthfully Lived

I’ve been there plenty of times.  I’ve been afraid of making a change, don’t want to make a change, and felt like change is absolutely impossible.  I’ve been stubborn and stuck to my trusty routine and done nothing.  And you know what that got me?


Sure, change is painful, difficult, and scary.  But change also is wonderful, enlivening, and moves you forward.  If you want to be or do something different, if you want to reach your goals, you’re going to have to change.  My high school band director used to tell us all the time, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  That has always stuck with me.Change When You Don't Want To | Life Healthfully Lived

So how do you change when you don’t want to?  Here are a few things that I do when I know that I need to change but it isn’t coming easy.

Figure out why

Why don’t I want to change?  Once I know the motive for staying where I am, then I can come up with a plan to counteract that motive.  Most often for me, it’s the fact that I’ve become comfortable with where I am.

Make a list of ideas

I love lists.  They keep me organized, help to see what I still have to do and what I’ve already finished.  Once you’ve figured out your why, make a list of a few things that you can do to change your habits or routine to start moving in a different direction.

Choose one

Pick one thing to work on, just one.  You don’t have to take on the whole list.  That can be a little daunting.  Choose a small change that you can make and work on that until it becomes your new habit, then move on to the next thing on your list.

Don’t beat yourself up

You’re going to fail at some point.  That sounds harsh, but it’s completely realistic and totally alright.  We all fail and if we were perfect, life wouldn’t be any fun at all.  The important thing to remember when you do fail is to not beat yourself up.  You are trying and that is the most you can ask of yourself.  Trying and failing is better than never doing anything at all.  Pick yourself up and get right back at it.Change When You Don't Want To | Life Healthfully Lived

Taking that first step and admitting that you have to change is a difficult one.  It can take you awhile to get to that point, but the important thing is that you get to that point.  Writing this post is just as much for me as it is for you.  Sometimes I need a little push in the right direction to start making the changes in my life that I know will lead me to my goals.

Yup, change is scary and trust me I resist it as much as the next person.  But when it comes to my health and happiness as well as yours, isn’t being a little scared yet still taking that leap of faith worth it in the end?

I think so.Change When You Don't Want To | Life Healthfully Lived

Dance Parties, Blind Superheros, And Other Things I’m Loving

Today’s post is gonna be short, sweet, and fun.

I spent most 3 moms and 4 generations of yesterday at my parent’s house making food and hanging with my momma for Mother’s Day.  You guys.  My mom?  She is the bees knees.  I know everyone thinks that about their moms but it’s especially true in my case.  She is the most amazing person ever and I am so lucky that I got to be her daughter.  Not that I really had any choice in the matter, but you get what I mean.  I hope you did something nice for your mom yesterday.  I mean she did kind of give birth to you and then put up with you for 18 or so years and you probably still go over there and eat all her food so the least you could do is tell her you love her and maybe get her some flowers or something…. Ok moving on.

Here is a random list of things that are making me happy these days:

Warm weather: Spring has finally sprung in Chicago It’s still a bit sketchy around here temperature wise, but last week we did have some days that reached the 80’s and it was GLORIOUS.  I am waiting for the day when the weatherman says “but cooler along the lakefront”, and it doesn’t mean crying while walking into a 30 mph, 40 degree northwind.  Soon….

New shelves/decorations:  Adam and I have been upping our apartment decor and I am loving it.  We got a new kitchen table, some shelves, a new storage unit for behind our couch, new curtains, and Adam built these awesome yoga mat holders.  They were really easy to put together and then I painted them with some chalkboard paint and he mounted them onto the wall.   Because our apartment is small it helps to have organization and anything that we can get off the floor helps.  We still have a few more things that we would like to get (new lights) but I’m quite pleased with how things are shaping up!

Yoga mat holders Homemade Yoga Mat Holders

New storage from IKEA New shelf from IKEA New Shelf from IKEA

Plantains and tea:  For the longest time I was obsessed with my Plantain Porridge.  Then one day I was totally done with it.  Like didn’t want to look at or eat another plantain at all.  Then a few weeks ago I saw them sitting in the grocery store and I picked up a few.  They sat on my counter while I thought about what to do with them.  On a whim I sliced them up, covered them with a little coconut oil and put them in the waffle maker.  They were SO good.  Waffle makers are like one of the best appliances because you can make anything in them.  I have made eggs, hash browns, sandwiches, waffles (duh), and now maduros (fried sweet plantains). Moral of the story?  Make all your meals in a waffle iron.  I also found a new tea I’ve been enjoying, Good Earth Tropical Rush.  It’s a green tea with all these fruity flavors like mango and lemongrass and it reminds me of summer and makes me happy.  Maybe if I drink a lot of it summer will get here faster….

Singing and dancing like a buffoon:  This isn’t a new thing for me but I like to have afternoon concerts/dance parties in my apartment.  I pretty much turn on Pandora really loud and sing and dance like nobodies business.  Except for maybe my neighbors since they have to hear/possibly see me dancing through the window.  But they shouldn’t complain because I sing and dance like a pro and they should be thankful for the entertainment.  I mean who else is going to blast Barry Manilow’s Somewhere In The Night and dance with their cat?  No one that’s who.  You’re welcome judgey neighbor across the hall.

Daredevil on Netflix: Daredevil on Netflix  If you’re not good with violence DO NOT WATCH THIS SHOW.  It’s like Game Of Thrones level violence.  There were some scenes that I had to close my eyes at but I am really loving this show.  My dad is a huge superhero buff and all my life I have grown up watching any and every superhero movie or show and this is one of my favorites.  I was a little hesitant at first because it seemed like all it was going to be was fighting porn with no storyline but that changes dramatically in the second half of the series.  I think what I love most about it is that the hero and the villain both want the same thing, to improve their city, but they go about it in completely different ways.  I like my heroes to have a little bit of a dark side/conflict and Daredevil definitely has that.  Plus the dude is blind and kicks serious butt.  If you have Netflix go watch it now.

Ok that’s enough rambling from me.  What did you do this weekend?  What things are making you love life right now?

Have a super Monday!

My Shopping Cart: Jewel Edition


For the next three weeks I am going to share my grocery shopping with you.  I think it’s important to know how to grocery shop because that’s where healthy eating starts.  I also think that many people have misconceptions about how and where they have to grocery shop if they want to eat better.  You don’t have to go to specialty stores and you don’t have to buy all organic all the time.  If you have the ability and the means to do that, awesome!  But you can have a healthy lifestyle without those things too.

I have four main places that I grocery shop for our household.  Jewel, Whole Foods, Walmart, and Aldi.  I go to these places at least once sometimes twice a week.  I do one big shopping trip on Friday morning and then supplement throughout the week with a few other trips.  This helps me save money and find the best deal on food.

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I’m starting with Jewel because that is where I do the bulk of my shopping.  Not only are they on my block but they also have a good selection.  Before I get into what I buy here are a few quick tips on making the most of any grocery shopping trip:

  • MAKE A LIST!  A list will keep you from just wandering the aisles and throwing whatever catches your eye into your cart. Know exactly what you need for your meals and what you need to restock and stick to your list!
  • Shop early.  I know not everyone can go to the store first thing in the morning, but if you can do it.  There aren’t that many people there, the shelves are usually fully stocked, and it’s quicker to get done when there aren’t tons of people around.  Nothing makes grocery shopping worse than doing it with 500 other people all trying to get the exact same bunch of kale.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask.  In my experience people who work in grocery stores know A LOT about groceries.  They know all the deals, the best time to shop produce, and a few have even given me some great tips on preparing the food I buy.  If you have a question just ask!

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Onto the shopping!  I buy all of my fresh produce at Jewel because they have a good selection and they also tend to have really good seasonal offerings.  No matter what the season though I usually always buy:

  • broccoli
  • carrots
  • bananas
  • cabbage
  • fresh herbs
  • onions
  • garlic
  • apples
  • oranges/pears/plums/whatever other fruit is on sale or in season


Then depending on season I sometimes have squash, summer squash, beets, parsnips, asparagus, leafy greens, or whatever else catches my eye.

I try to stay in season and choose produce that is on sale to get the most bang for my buck.  I also don’t buy the organic versions of these.  At this point in time I just don’t have the financial resources to buy all organic and that is totally fine! Regular broccoli is better than no broccoli at all.  I do however make sure that I wash all of my produce well before I eat it.

Jewel is also where I get canned goods, eggs, and frozen vegetables.  I always make sure to have canned tomatoes and tomato paste/sauce on hand and I get the Jewel brand of these.  The ingredient list is short and simple which is always important and it’s the cheapest brand, also important!  I buy a lot of eggs, at least 24 perhaps more a week, but again I can’t afford to buy organic or cage free at this time so I just get the best that I can afford.


Finally frozen vegetables.  Jewel has a really big and inexpensive selection of frozen vegetables that I love.  Frozen vegetables sometimes get a bad rap as not being as good as fresh but that is totally wrong.  They are just as nutritious and are sometimes more convenient than fresh.  I keep a good variety on hand to throw into stir frys, soups, stews, salads, or as a quick side.  Some of my favorites right now are:

  • green beans
  • shelled edamame
  • sugar snap peas
  • 3 pepper blend (red, green, and yellow peppers)
  • california blend (cauliflower, broccoli, carrots)
  • chopped spinach or kale

That’s my Jewel shopping trip.  My Jewel also has a really good natural food market, a part of the store that has food you would normally find at say Whole Foods but for less money.  I’ll sometimes get tea, gluten free pasta, and chickpea flour here.


Next Wednesday I will talk about what I get at Walmart and Aldi.  Yes, you can find healthy food at Walmart and Aldi and save a lot of money.  Have a great Wednesday everyone!


Where do you shop?  What is the hardest part of grocery shopping for you?