Accentuate the Positive, Eliminate the Negative

March 24, 2014 / ktbuchs87

So often when we make the decision to change our lifestyles, we tend to zero in on the bad habits. This is very true when it comes to changing our health for the better. We decide that we want to eat better, exercise more, and just be healthier in general. Then we start listing all the unhealthy habits we have. We snack too much, we count walking from the refrigerator to the couch as exercise, the only cooking we do is pressing the start button on the microwave, etc. etc…. In order to be healthy we have to get rid of all those habits, and the sooner the better. Right?

Not so much. When I first decided to be healthier, I had the same mindset. I took a look at my life and immediately saw all the “bad” things that I did. I was discouraged and felt the urgent need to change everything as fast as possible. I got rid of all the junk food in my kitchen, bought new exercise DVD’s, and completely overhauled my lifestyle. All of this sounds really good and is necessary when trying to be healthier, but it shouldn’t all happen at once. Sure I had gotten rid of all the “bad” stuff, but I had no idea what to do next. I had essentially changed my whole world over night and that led to more than a few slip-ups and feeling like being healthier was impossible.

Luckily I learned from my mistakes and found a much better approach to changing my lifestyle. I slowly began to change things. I started adding healthier recipes to my weekly rotation. I experimented with a few new exercise routines to see what I liked best and I could stick with. This gradual change made it much easier to stick with a healthier lifestyle. The other thing that really helped me was to focus on the good habits that I already had before I decided to live healthier. Once I saw that I had already had some good habits, it made it feel like I could actually change for good.

If you have recently made the choice to change your lifestyle, try this approach. Instead of immediately changing every single bad habit in your life, take a look and find the good things. Maybe you’re really good at drinking a lot of water, or you have a fairly solid workout routine. Once you find your good habits, find ways to build on them. If you’re a really good cook, start incorporating healthier ingredients and recipe into your repertoire. Soon you’ll have a healthy menu and you’ll feel really accomplished and motivated to keep going. The important thing to remember is to take it slow. This increases your chances of sticking to your goal of living a healthier lifestyle. Once you see all the good things you already do and find ways to expand upon them, being healthy won’t seem like such a daunting and unattainable task. Each positive thing you do will be another step towards living and feeling great!

You’re a Bully

February 17, 2014February 17, 2014 / ktbuchs87 / 1 Comment

Battle the bulge. Fight flab. Annihilate your arms. Crush your core. These are all fairly common phrases when looking at articles and websites on how to lose weight or exercise your body. You’ve heard or read these numerous times whether you realized it or not. You probably don’t pay much attention to them, but could they be affecting you anyway?

In the past few weeks and months, I have been working hard on learning to love my body. I have shared before some of my insecurities and past issues with my self image. It’s tough to try to retrain your brain to actually see what’s in the mirror and not what you think you see. It has taken me a lot of practice to be proud of what my body can do, rather than trying to change my body into what I think it needs to look like. Amongst all this working on my self image, I have come across a lot of tips, articles, workouts, and diets that use words and phrases like those above. At first, I really didn’t think much of it. As I kept seeing these things and kept working on my own issues, I felt like maybe these things were affecting me more than I realized. I have a tendency to be very harsh and critical of my body. I know that many other people struggle with this as well. We all think that we can be better, we can do more, and we believe, for whatever reason, we aren’t good enough or think we look the way we should. To be blunt, we’re bullies. We’re bullies to our own bodies.

That may sound kind of ridiculous. I mean, you aren’t knocking your own books out of your hand and demanding lunch money from yourself. But think about your inner monologue when it comes to your body. Would you say those words out loud to someone else? Would you want to hear those things coming from your friends or family members? Is what you’re telling yourself helping you achieve anything positive? For me, I can tell you it wasn’t true.

Wednesday’s I have my long run day. Lately, I have been getting in a little over 10 miles, which is really exciting for me because I have never run in the double digits before. A few weeks ago, I had just finished my run and was about to get in the shower and I started to do my normal nitpicking of all the body parts and areas that I didn’t like. Is my lower stomach as flat as I think it should be, is my butt a little too big from all my kettlebell work, are my arms as defined as they were two weeks ago…. then I stopped mid-thought. My body, the one I was bashing with negative thoughts, had just finished carrying me over TEN MILES. It had just done a 7 minute plank workout. It had popped up into a headstand with ease (and might I boast a little grace) and held it for over a minute. And here I was beating it up and telling it that it wasn’t good enough. It dawned on me how crazy I was acting. As weird as it may sound, I apologized (out loud) and thanked my body for all it had done just that morning. That day was my a-ha moment, and it really helped me turn a corner in truly appreciating my body and all that it does for me.

Do I think that the people who use phrases and words like “battle the bulge” or “fight flab” are deliberately trying to be mean? Not at all. They want to motivate their audience and give you the power to change your health and your life. I am all for motivating everyone to make the healthiest decisions possible, but I am also for being kind to our bodies. How much better and easier would getting healthier be if we all loved ourselves just a little bit more? Instead of fighting our bodies, let’s work with them and listen to what they need to live healthier. When you really start to think about all the things you ask your body to do day in and day out, it’s amazing. As cheesy or silly as it may seem, I’m going to ask you to talk to your body just a little bit nicer than normal. Thank your body for carrying you through this life and give yourself props for making choices and taking steps to be healthier each and every day. That little extra kindness can stretch a long way and give you the tools to see how truly awesome you really are!

Girls Only?

October 7, 2013 / ktbuchs87

On NPR this morning (yes, I listen to NPR. Thanks hubby!) there was a news piece about how eating disorders affect men. Most people are aware that boys and men are affected by eating disorders, but they probably don’t know the extent or much about it. When people hear eating disorder, they automatically make the connection to girls or women. I certainly do. As a girl myself, we are constantly talked to about all types of disordered eating as well as body and self image issues. Sometimes it is almost like people expect girls to have some type of body problem. However, we don’t realize that the same issues that affect girls also affect boys.

Part of the problem is that the way eating disorders affect boys is different than the way it affects girls. Boys want to look lean and ripped whereas girls tend to want to look skinny and thin. Many boys can pass their problem off as just wanting to get bigger and stronger and people won’t question that as much as a girl who may look like she is wasting away. Also, because there is a stereotype that eating disorders only affect girls, some boys might not want to admit that they have a problem. They will hide it longer because they don’t want to deal with the stigma of having a “girl” problem. They’re already struggling, and they don’t want to add being teased on top of that. When they do seek help, most recovery programs are not geared towards boys. The NPR story followed a thirteen year old boy that was diagnosed with bulimia. When it was time to get treatment, he said that it was really awkward being the only boy there. He felt that his eating disorder didn’t affect him the same way that it affected the girls he went to treatment with.

Eating disorders are on the rise among boys. It’s estimated that 10 million men will be affected by an eating disorder sometime in their life and about 43% are dissatisfied with their bodies. Just as woman are constantly bombarded with what their bodies should look like, men get the same treatment from the media. Male models are ripped, and Photoshop can enhance abs just like it can whittle a waist. Boys are taught that to be “real” men they need to be big and strong, and that can affect their relationship with their body and food. We need to start paying more attention to the way society tries to dictate the way men should look, just like we are hyper aware of how it affects women. Boys need to know as well that their body is just great the way it is. Girls hear this all the time from entire campaigns that are run based on this idea. The more that people are made aware of how these things affect boys, more research and better treatment can be made available. It’s important for every single person to feel amazing in their own skin, no matter their gender.

I hope that you all had an awesome weekend, I know we did here in the Midwest! Fall weather FINALLY arrived on Sunday and now it’s nice and crisp outside! My favorite season has begun! Have a fabulous week!

Trust and Foodie Penpal Reveal Day

September 30, 2013 / ktbuchs87 / 2 Comments

Today you get a double post! Aren’t you just the luckiest! Since it is the end of the month, that means that it is Foodie Penpal reveal day. Foodie Penpal was started by Lindsay over at the Lean Green Bean and is a fun way to try new and delicious things with others across the country. If you would like to participate or just want some more info, you can head over to Lindsay’s blog and check out all the official guidelines. This month my pen pal was Lauren and she did a fabulous job with my box! Included was:

1. Spicy Moroccan Sauce- GREAT in soups and stews, which I am now making more of with the cooler weather

2. Rosemary and Black Pepper almonds- My husband really enjoys these as a tasty snack

3. Four Fruit Spread- I haven’t had a chance to try this yet but I am sure it will be fantastic

4. Almond Butter- I love any and all nut butters, so this of course was a favorite

5. Gluten-free Cinnamon Raisin Bread- This was made and devoured immediately!

6. Various spices- I love my herbs and spices and these new ones have been fun to try out!

Thanks again Lauren, this was a great box!

On one of my daily blog readings, I came across a piece of advice that struck me. I don’t remember which blog it was or even the main point of that particular post (I read a LOT of blogs). The author stated, “Trust your body, it knows exactly what it needs and it will let you know too”. When I first read it, I really didn’t pay much attention. I have heard this advice many times before. In fact, I often tell you to listen to your own body and to pay attention to the signals it sends you. But as the day went on, I really started thinking about that advice and the word that really got me was trust. Trust your body. I realized that I don’t know if I fully trust my own body, at least not yet.

Let me explain. It is one thing to listen to your body, your stomach growls, you know you’re hungry, you put food into your body. That is fairly simple. But do you trust your body to choose the right food? Do you trust your body to eat the right amount of food? Do you ultimately trust that your own body is telling you that it needs? I have had a very tug-of-war like relationship with my own body and food over the years. Many times I would just eat anything at anytime because I was bored or just wanted the taste of food. This whole cycle of overindulging and eating food that wasn’t good for me created a very strained relationship between me and my body. When I decided to finally start eating better and improve my health, I honestly did not trust myself or my body to make smart decisions food wise. I literally had to throw out all the processed junk food in my pantry and refrigerator because I knew that I would not be able to trust myself around those things.

It has gotten easier over time to say no to the food that does nothing to keep me healthy. I avoid certain aisles in the grocery store, I don’t make certain foods, and if I go out to eat, I don’t even look at certain parts of the menu. Sure, that sounds like I trust my body, but in reality, I’m still a little nervous that I will go back to my unhealthy days if I fully trusted in my body to tell me what it needed. What if I misinterpret the signals? What if I think my body is telling me it needs something that I don’t want to eat? This may sound confusing and silly, but because of my past, I have a hard time with these things. But I’m also starting to realize that my body is smarter than I give it credit for. Because I have been feeding it the best possible food and treating it as healthfully as possible, my body knows that it doesn’t need nor want any of the food that I used to crave in the past. I’ve also learned so much these past few years when it comes to nutrition and health, which also contributes to continuing to eat well and live healthfully.

I’m learning more and more to really trust in my body to tell me what it needs. Some days are better/easier than others, but it is all a part of the process. Being healthy isn’t a sprint to the finish, it is a longer and slower journey, one that you have to make mistakes and learn from them. Will I ever be perfect? No! Obviously that is impossible and not expected of anyone. But I will get better and continue to be as healthy as possible. If you’re going through the same trust issue I am, just remember: be patient with yourself, give yourself time, and don’t be too hard on yourself. You will get there, I promise!

Have a fantastic Monday and a great rest of the week!

My cousin got married this weekend. The family cleans up pretty well!

Buchanan cousins and the new Mrs. Wills!

When We Go to Extremes

August 19, 2013 / ktbuchs87 / 2 Comments

There are a lot of extreme things out there. Extreme sports, extreme food, extreme vacations, pretty much anything can be made extreme these days. Extreme can be a good thing, as some people really like to push themselves when it comes to sports and thrive in an “extreme” atmosphere. But extreme can also quickly get out of hand and become dangerous, especially when it comes to the way you eat.

Extreme dieting is not a new issue. People have gone to great lengths just to lose weight and shed pounds. We have heard of the grapefruit diet or the cabbage soup diet. Back in the day, those were some pretty extreme diets. Subsisting only on one kind of soup or one type of fruit is definitely not a healthy or sustainable way to lose weight or eat. That seems like common sense for most of us. Yet there are still extreme forms of weight loss out there today. This week I came across this article from Health magazine. It highlights seven crazy and ridiculous methods that people actually use to try and lose weight. From feeding tubes, to tapeworms, to having a patch surgically attached to your tongue that makes it too painful to eat any solid food, the list is pretty extreme.

When I first read this article, I thought, “Come on now people! This is just silly!” As I kept reading, I started to feel really sad. It made me sad to think of the extremes that some people will go to just to lose weight. It made me sad that some people felt that this was their only hope at being thinner. It made me sad that I used to think the exact same way. It also made me mad that in some of these situations (feeding tubes and tongue patches in particular) doctors, people who are suppose to be helping, not hurting, were endorsing these forms of weight loss. To be honest, it also made me feel a little helpless. How can I, one person with very little pull, help stop this? How can I make even a tiny dent and convince people that this is not the way to go?

Once I stopped feeling helpless, I realized I can keep sharing my story and my experiences with others and help guide them in the right direction. When it comes to diet and lifestyle, extreme will NOT help you. Sure, on some extreme diets you will lose weight quickly. That’s what happens when you cut out food and starve yourself. That weight loss though isn’t healthy weight loss and it is not sustainable. Taking extreme measures to lose weight will just hurt you in the long run. With some of the methods listed in that article, they can cause serious medical damage. At the very least, you are taxing your body and messing with your metabolism which will make it really difficult to maintain a healthy weight in the future.

I understand the helplessness that can accompany trying to lose weight. At times it can feel like nothing works. You either can’t lose weight at all or you lose the weight just to have it all come back. You feel that you are on a never ending diet and you are tired enough that giving up and going back to your old lifestyle seems more and more appealing. Not caring anymore is a lot easier than caring sometimes. I have been there and I know it’s tough to push past that mentality. Truth is the only way to truly be healthy is to change for the long term. You have to make yourself view it as a lifestyle change, not just a temporary fix. You can’t have the mindset that you are going to do this until you lose x amount of pounds and then go back to the way things were. It doesn’t work that way.

Yes, changing for the long haul is hard and daunting. You mean I have to do this forever? Yes. Yes, you do. Stop looking at all the things you are “giving up” or “losing”, don’t put food into categories of can have or can’t have. View it as you are CHOOSING to live a better life, you WANT to have great health, you are GAINING good nutrition and habits. If you are at a point in your life where you are ready and willing to change, don’t overwhelm yourself. Don’t make a massive change to your life, because changing everything at once can cause overload and make you want to quit before you even begin.

Start small and start simple. Remember, extreme doesn’t help when it comes to a lifestyle change. Cut out candy bars as a snack and have fruit instead. Go for a 10 minute walk on your lunch break. Read a book instead of watching TV at night. Easy things that you can sustain, and once you have made those into a habit, move on to the next change. Will this take a long time? Yes, but this is what helps you change for life permanently. As you slowly start changing your life, you will start to see the benefits of living healthier. Those stairs that used to wind you at work are now a breeze to climb. Chronic headaches that used to plague you are now few and far between. You sleep better at night, you have more energy than before, and you are actually enjoying real food more and more instead of processed junk.

If something doesn’t work for you or doesn’t seem to benefit your personal health, then stop and try something different. That is OK! Remember we are all different and our bodies need different things. Maybe your friend is feeling amazing by running every day and subsisting on a more Paleo- type diet, but those things leave you feeling drained, sluggish, and you are SO not motivated to run for even 5 minutes. That is totally fine! Find out what works for you. Health is very personalized, which makes it so great. You can customize your life to give yourself maximum health benefits.

The main takeaway for this post is to keep things simple. I don’t want you to feel that the only way you can lose weight is to take up smoking or swallow a tapeworm. You and your health are worth so much more than the damage those methods will cause. The only extreme you need in your life is extreme happiness. Keeping your best interests in mind will help lead you to the best health you can obtain, I promise!